Content Warning: this page includes mentions of dysphoria.
I Think I Might Be Trans
I think I’m trans: now what?
If you’re wondering whether you might be trans: welcome!
There are very many ways of being trans and a diverse range of trans people in Cambridge. Whether you’re just starting to think about your gender, have known for years, or anything in between - you’re not the only one. We welcome anyone who is trans or questioning (or both) in any way and won’t pass judgement on any aspect of your experience.
Not all trans people will make a medically-assisted transition to a binary gender and if this is not the right option for you it certainly doesn’t make a trans identity any less valid. Plenty of people identify as non-binary; that is, their gender doesn’t align with the Western understanding of either male or female. Some non-binary people will still seek to transition in a variety of ways, including medical treatment to alleviate body dysphoria. Some people who identify with one of the binary genders won’t seek to transition, or will transition but won’t seek medical treatment… it all very much depends what’s right for the individual.
If you’re feeling like your identity doesn’t entirely match up to the gender you were assigned at birth, you might well be trans in some way. This might include feeling you fill a social role that is not compatible with the gender you were assigned at birth, and / or feelings of dysphoria (discomfort, mismatch, anxiety) around the gendered aspects of your body.
If you don’t feel the need to do anything about that at this stage, or ever - then that’s fine! You’re still very welcome to be a part of the CUSU LGBT+ trans community. If, however, you do - lots of people start by trying out a different name or set of pronouns and making small changes to their appearance. Trans coffee meets are a place where you can do this in an environment where it will be understood and nobody will mind if things change from week to week. Trying to work out what’s right for you might well involve trying stuff out and seeing whether it makes things feel any better.
Trans coffee meets are on every Saturday during term time. We meet downstairs in Clown's Cafe on King St. from 11am until 1pm (or long after!) and are always keen to welcome new people. Clown's is accessible downstairs and has single-occupant toilets.
We also have a couple of mailing lists: cusu-lgbt-transinfo is an information-only list where the trans rep posts information on what is going on for trans students, and cusu-lgbt-trans is a discussion list to which any of the members can post. You can sign up to these by going to https://lists.cam.ac.uk - or, email the trans rep who will be able to add you.
If you want to hear real people talking about transition, there are a huge number of video diaries and blogs online run by people who are undergoing or have undergone transition, which range from the fun and frivolous to the serious and instructive. (Note: since these blogs are constantly updated, we cannot reliably content warn for any content in these links.)
Some current and previous trans reps’ personal favourites are:
Rooster Tails: An autobiographical (occasionally NSFW) comic run by New Zealand trans man Sam Orchard about him and his genderqueer partner Joe: www.roostertailscomic.com
Juliet Jacques’ (MtF) Guardian column: http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2010/jun/02/transgender-journey
Ayden and Kylie’s upbeat, silly, and occasionally harrowing video diary of Ayden’s FtM transition. (If you only watch one, take a look at ‘People Gone Wrong’.) http://www.youtube.com/user/AYDENandKYLIE
Maki’s channel. An intelligent video diary from an utterly cool trans femme musician in the UK! http://www.youtube.com/user/mercuryneedle
More vloggers: https://www.youtube.com/user/JohannDrivesMyBus